Battle of the Sexes

Oftentimes, men have a tendency to collectively attack the more feminine gender. Then, there are times when women brunch over the evil doings of men. There are also times when either sex bash the ones of the same sex. I think you know where I'm going with this. This bash fest usually comes from a place of hurt, experienced rejection or disappointment for being misused, abused and perhaps a little unappreciated. Women claim all men are dogs. Men claim we don't know a good man when we see one. Both feel that the other doesn't really appreciate a 'good' mate at all. I'd like to beg to differ. It is all about connection. Being good doesn't make a person physically, emotionally and spiritually connected to you. A good man can be paired to an equally good woman but if there is no connection it can appear to look as though one is not appreciative of another. I've seen relationships were both were appreciative of the other and the gratitude was reciprocal but were they IN love with each other? No. And that's what they both agreed to. Complacency is why they stayed together. If there is no balance there is no appreciation. I say yes. There are women that appreciate and some that don't. One can't just be good to be appreciated and being good doesn't mean love will be reciprocated. I think that's arrogance. Kudos to the women that do and good luck to the ones that don't. It is arrogant for us to believe that one HAS to love us back because we are good. Who defines good? Me or that person? We can't say since someone doesn't love us back that makes them unappreciative. It just makes you not the one for them. There is no balance. The issue is we are allowing society to define what "good" is and what "good" we should accept. So, since we have everything checked on the checklist that makes us good according to society than we feel that we are entitled to love from the person we want love from. When they don't reciprocate it then we say they are unappreciative. Ok I'll shut up now. Stop chasing people who have clearly shown signs of not reciprocating what you are putting out. That doesn't make a person unappreciative of you. It makes you unappreciative of you.

This was a quick thought.

Ponder it and carry on,

//signed//

The Cat's Meow